A Sun opposite Sun aspect in synastry brings a classic case of opposites attract. This is an intriguing aspect that’s frequently found between friends and lovers. Your personalities are complementary to one another. At the same time, there is a fundamental difference in temperaments, which can lead to conflict. They don’t always share the same basic aims and desires. The Sun is a masculine planet, so it’s key to beware of ego clashes.
What they See in Each Other
There is generally a strong reaction to one another, whether it’s attraction or dislike. Oppositions bring out strong emotions. You love and respect each other when you are able to complement each other, and you hate each other when you fail to understand and appreciate your differences.
When disagreements arise, the argument is between your egos. It can easily lean towards a love-hate relationship. Oppositions between the fixed sign Suns are the hardest because they’re the most stubborn. That said, there’s an innate attraction felt because you need the qualities the other provides. Your partner seems to counter some of their own dominant qualities or help achieve this.
At best, you will complement each other nicely and find the relationship stimulating and mutually supportive with a nice balance of egos. At worst, there can be no real relationship because you are constantly pulling apart, moving in completely opposite directions. It can even be both at the same time…Yes, the classic love-hate relationship is a possibility here.
Aspect Strengths
Although you may have conflicts like any other couple, you are both flexible enough to recognize the “otherness” of each other and wise enough to know that you can love someone who thinks and feels differently than yourself.
I’ve found that as long as both people avoid self-righteousness and work to understand the other’s motivations with empathy and maturity, Sun Opposite Sun couples can thrive due to their complementary balance. The passion here can be intense, but cultivating acceptance of opposites makes the difference. It’s about honoring each person’s unique identity within the whole.
Beware of appearing haughty, judgmental, or self-righteous with each other when really the argument is about differences in basic temperaments. Appreciate your basic differences, as you have much potential to complement each other.
Aspect Challenges
Opposites might well attract, but they can also repel and often can attract-repel at the same time, which makes this aspect very interesting. There can be ego conflicts and competitiveness. Care should be taken not to try to knock each other down with blows to the ego.
I have seen friendships and other relationships with Sun opposite Sun contacts suddenly fall apart over what appears to be (from the outside looking in) a simple disagreement about different temperaments. Sometimes, this aspect indicates rivalry, as opposed to vying for the same seat; however, these people often hold diametrically opposed viewpoints on life.
You may, for example, both need too much of the same thing and not realize that you are demanding from the other that which they have not yet developed the ability to provide. You both may also assume the role of leader in the relationship, assuming the other wants the same things or is as enthusiastic about your desires and goals as you are. As a result of these assumptions, you may be surprised when your partner asserts their own independence and may come to perceive this as a betrayal or feel neglected. You may also become jealous of your partners’ opportunities if you aspire to the same goals.
Tips for navigating this Synastry
The key to handling these relationships is to avoid becoming arrogant and self-righteous with one another. Statements that begin with “you should…” must be avoided because they only serve to make the partner defensive. Acceptance and understanding need to be worked on in order for the relationship to survive.
Find areas where your opposite traits complement each other in supportive ways. Aries is self-centered, honest, and direct; Libra is passive, self-sacrificing, and appeasing. Capricorn wants to go out and achieve; Cancer stays home to ensure safety and comfort when needed. These two energies can actually work well together, especially in a healthy relationship.
The alternative to talking about differences is fighting over them. These are the people with whom there is seemingly no middle ground. They are not willing to compromise and might even be antagonistic. The best course of action is to avoid these people altogether. Without maturity and self-awareness, it can become easy to project insecurities onto each other rather than uplifting each other.
Finding an adequate compromise between diverging wants and respecting each other’s boundaries is key to making this pairing work romantically. It is up to the two of you to develop a mutual appreciation for your differences rather than antagonize each other.
My Experiences Counseling Sun Opposite Sun Synastry Clients with Examples
I remember Sally and John, a Sun Opposite Sun couple who struggled with constant ego battles. They were both incredibly stubborn and always had to be right. Sally was an Aries with a fiery, self-centered personality, while John was a Libra who always tried to keep the peace through appeasement. They struggled to find middle ground on anything. The key was making each person feel heard and getting them to understand each other’s point of view more fully. It took work, but over time they learned to appreciate each other’s opposite temperaments rather than antagonize each other.
Another case was Tina and Mark, who had their Suns in a tight opposition between Capricorn and Cancer. The driven, ambitious Capricorn clashed constantly with the homebody, comfort-seeking Cancer. Through counseling, I advised them to designate times for achievement versus security and to respect each other’s goals rather than fight over differences. Once they embraced their diverse perspectives, their bond strengthened tremendously.
With care and conscious effort, the magnetism of complements can transform into deeper appreciation of each person’s unique assets.
